I have been going through TableTalk again lately, and today, the guys (RC or who?) had a good insight When Jesus shares with the lawyer in Matthew 22:34-40 the two greatest commandments, he not only gives us two things to do, but he gives us two things that are connected. First, love for neighbor has to be tied to love for God. So, if we're doing something toward our neighbor that we think is love but violates God's will, then it's not really love for him or her. Second, love for God is also tied to love for neighbor. That means that, if we say we love God, but we don't have that expressed as love for neighbor (and I would argue this is typically in the context of committed relationships in a local church), than there is also reason to question whether or not we get what it truly means to love God.